It's really simple. A Vibrator, as it's name suggests vibrates. A dildo however doesn't vibrate.

There's no real right or wrong answer here, if you're doing something that turns you on, then you do it.

What will probably surprise you is that a lot women don't like to use their vibrators inside of them. They simply prefer to use it on and around their clitoris and lips. Having said that, there are a large amount of women who like a vibrator inside them, so if this includes you, then you're not alone.

Of course, your vibrator is not restricted in use to your genital area, you can use it anywhere on your body, from your nipples to the soles of your feet.

Yes, however silicon lubes should not be used with silicone based sex toys as it can damage the toy. This is because the ingredients in the lube that keep it liquid can cause the silicone in the toy to break down.

Ah, you've come to the right person here. I must have tried every conceivable shape, style and colour available. Most of it comes down to personal choice. I'd suggest trying something not too daring the first time. Once you've used your first purchase you'll have a much better feel for what it's all about and what your next purchase might be.

If you ignore the thousands of different styles there is predominantly, two basic types of vibrator. A single shaft vibrator and a vibrator with a tickler, sometimes referred to Rabbit vibrators.

Your single shaft vibrator is the sort of thing most people think of when they imagine what a vibrator looks like. They come in all different shapes, sizes, textures and colours. Normally split between those that look like the real thing, like the 7inch Veined Multispeed Latex Vibe and those that don't like the Dolphin II.

Which style you choose is entirely up to you. Some people prefer the idea that it's real, all-be-it vibrating, others want to completely disassociate it with the penis. The real thing style products tend to be limited in the textures available, normally "veined" or not, whereas the others can be smooth, hard, soft, bumpy, lumpy and many more combinations.

The other advantage of it not looking like a penis is that the man in your life might take offense or have a complex over another penis in the bedroom. Now you girls all know that's a load of rubbish, but hey men are from venus remember!

So what about the vibrators with a tickler? Well, the best known of these is the Jessica Rabbit as popularised in the TV show Sex in the City. Here you have a vibrating shaft like before, but in addition you have a tickler which gently vibrates on your clitoris. This style of vibrator is my favourite, because if you thought you had intense orgasms before, then this will completely blow your mind.

The tickler style rarely comes looking like a penis (sorry penis worshipers out there), but there is a large selection available. Take the Nixe from Fun Factory. It's a funny twisted design that feels really fab in itself, but then you get to use the controls. The shaft vibrates at different speeds and rotates. The tickler vibrates at two different speeds and has a selection of pulsing modes. You have full control and full fun.

There are other types of vibrators available, but when someone asks me, what vibrator I would recommend, these two types are the first that spring to mind. So there you have it, two very distinct types of vibrator. The one you choose will depend greatly on what you like.

That's a good question, one that people often feel afraid to ask, like they're the only one on the planet not to know it. A lot of people reading this are going to be surprised and might stop reading when I tell them, but I'd recommend to keep going and make a judgemental call at the end.

The male G-Spot is the prostate gland. For those of you that don't know where the prostate is, it is located between the bladder and anus. Men can if agile, or a partner can feel it about two or three inches inside his anus on the wall at the front of his body.

Okay, so now you know where it is physically, why is it so special? Most men, once they've got past any hang-ups over anything in their rear can find pleasure from stimulation. Some can even come through prostate stimulation.

This can either be from a finger or a toy of some kind. If you use a finger, a gentle pressure and moving motion can be very enjoyable, but with most things in sex, my advice is to have a play around and see what works for him. In my experience, pretty much everyone has liked a variation on a theme.

What can also be fun and enjoyable is if you use a toy. Something like the Crystal Wave that is smooth and curvy can not only give pleasure through stimulating the prostate, but also on the anus walls and opening.

Alternatively a vibrator can be great on the prostate, I'd recommend a small one at first so he can get used to it, like the Jelly Anal Vibrator.

You'll find that not only should he enjoy having some form of stimulation, but he'll have a very powerful orgasm, something to be aware of as it can catch you unawares at times (now there's a story!).

What's really important to remember, is that you should use plenty of a good quality lubricant when enjoying any anal play. If the toy you're using is not silicone, then the Pjur Original Silicone lube is perfect. If you are using silicone toys or are allergic to silicone, then the Pjur Aqua lube is the one for you.

There is something fundamentally primeval and raw about rear entry positions like doggy style, in way you’re undoing the work of thousands of years of evolution. It is this deep seated love for this range of positions that probably make it so attractive. That and the fact that any position where you can not see each other’s faces make a good combination for down and dirty sex.

Ignoring our historical pulls for wanting to do it, most love this genre of positions owing to the combination of angles and locations it can be used in. It doesn’t have to be fast and furious, although it gets a tick in my box, as you can quite as easily have long drawn out romantic love making just as easily.

Rear entry positions are also very portable. From the typical on all fours in the bedroom, to bending her over the gate while out for a walk in the country, to finding out why kitchen work tops are installed at that very convenient height.

From the physics point of view you can get some incredibly deep penetration here, which not only makes full use of his manhood, but also provides superb g-spot stimulation.

From his point of view, he has a wonderful view of your neck, back, arse and not forgetting himself going in and out. The last point alone makes this a winner for men being so visually stimulated. It is also a fantastic position to do when you’ve got a full length mirror to your side, so you both can see what’s going on.

While considering how one looks in this position, a top tip for girls is to keep your arms straight so your shoulders are higher than your bum and your back is arched downwards. Your entire body will become more curvaceous from seductive shoulders, a slim waste through to a pert bum. Also if you have long flowing hair, it will cascade down your back, again making his visual enjoyment all that better. Has the added benefit of changing the angle of your pelvis, this increasing further the sanitations on the back wall of your vagina.

So we’re looking good, going fast or slow, but what else can you do? It greatly depends on how fast you are going. If you’re trying to break a world speed record, then she’s probably just trying to stay upright, while he’ll firmly have your hips in his hands giving himself as much thrusting power as possible. However, if it is a lazy Sunday afternoon and you are taking it easier then there are his balls and her clitoris to be played with. From experience unless he has very long arms, he’ll find it difficult to reach your clitoris without being in a position that limits his thrusting, so it might be down to her. However if she can reach back and play with this balls he’ll love her for ever.

Using the variation either kneeling on the bed or standing up, typically with her arms propping herself up high on a wall, he can fondle her breasts.

What ever angle or pose you take, if you are in to a bit of slap and tickle, while having sex doggy style, he is in the best position of all for slapping your arse either with his hand, a whip or paddle.

As we’re heading down the more adventurous route, you could start introducing some accessories. With a little lube he could finger her bum if that’s your thing. Or he could provide some extra stimulus if the deep penetration was not enough by popping on a penis sleeve.

Finally, for nice girls who do not like the idea of such raw dirty sex, there is the reverse missionary position. She does an 180deg rotation, being on her front, pushing her bum in the air. He can then mount her, completely wrapping his body around hers. Getting in and staying in will need a little practice, but it’s worth it. She’s completely submissive here, while being gently penetrated. Alternatively, get him to kneel sitting on his feet over your bum. From here he can thrust through using his hips to provide a slightly deeper and faster action.

It's a tough question as it really depends on what you've done before and where your comfort levels lie. I'd recommend either try different positions or locations for sex or introduce some props. These can either be some sexy or down-right naughty lingerie or a sex toy.

A lot of people get concerned that by doing it someone will find it. But lets be honest here, if you keep the tape somewhere safe it's never going to happen.

Digital Cameras are great and wildly available at very affordable prices. I know someone who goes to great lengths to secure the files on their computer, but unless you share the computer with someone, who's going to find them?

If you can not afford a digital camera or want to use your existing traditional one then you'll have to find a lab that will take them. The main high street chains will not touch them, but you'll be surprised if asked, how many of the small independent stores will. If you don't actually want to go in to a store, you'll find confidential mail order companies offering these service. Buy a issue of a photographic magazine, they'll probably advertising in the classifieds.

Sure, try our short stories section. If it gets you in the mood, write your own and submit it and you might win a prize.

Most girls like it in some shape or form, as the first few inches of the vagina feel great with something big (as in wide) in them. The stretching feeling. Some women can naturally or through lots of trying get a whole hand in there, but if your current girlfriend can not, don't worry.

Try using two or more fingers (working up slowly and only when she's turned on) and you might just find she likes it.